It was the sort of toxic mixture of elements and multiple assault on the senses that would until recently have triggered some challenging behaviour in my sister; a bustling crowd, loud music, the company of strangers and – to add insult to injury – an extraordinary day with no familiar routine.
But not only was 22-year-old Raana Salman at the very heart of the carnival throng in my parents’ Sussex hometown during the recent Bank Holiday weekend, she was loving every noisy, overcrowded minute.
Wearing a pink fairy costume and a wide, joyous grin, she was a proud participant in the Ferring Country Centre carnival entry as part of the learning disability charity’s float in the Worthing carnival. She even featured in a photograph in the local newspaper.
The hand elegantly pointing at onlookers with a homemade wand (beautifully fashioned from a battered old Christmas tree star and a cardboard wrapping paper roll) was the same one that would flap incessantly or claw at my mother on fractious days out when something was unfamiliar or overwhelming.
It was the same hand that several years ago would frantically gouge out the skin on her other arm during an anxiety attack. This is what happened the time I mistakenly thought she’d be pleased with a trip to my new place in London; her worry and tears escalated the closer we got to my front door, and failing to placate her, I just drove her back to Sussex.
My extremely biased, unfettered pride at my learning disabled sister’s achievements will be obvious to some regular readers – from her first few faltering steps towards finding her own identity at The Mount, the first Camphill community in East Sussex she joined at 16, to her recent progress at Camphill’s Lantern Community in Ringwood, Hampshire. And the only major problems so far have been other people’s narrow minds.
And I’m delighted to say my shameless promotion of her progress continues apace. This summer, she spent a few days at the Ferring Country Centre, learning social and life skills through activities and enjoying day trips that boosted her independence and widened her horizons enough for her to join in the carnival parade.
The centre has grown since its launch in 1986 by a group of like-minded parents who recognised the need for a workplace-based setting for vulnerable adults. The aim is to boost social inclusion for the learning disabled, supporting them to play a valued role in society through training and work experience.
The scheme’s garden centre grows plants and vegetables for sale to the public with the project’s participants helping in every aspect of production. The riding therapy lessons are taken up by 600 learning and physically disabled adults and children every month. People with disabilities also work in the café and the scheme’s small animals farm while off-site, they get involved in community projects, including newspaper collection and gardening.
When I asked Raana if she’d mind me writing about her latest experience, she nodded: “I loved it. I want to do it again next year.” And when I asked what the best thing about the Ferring centre was, she said proudly “my top”. Her answer didn’t really surprise me; the logoed tee-shirt and matching fleece are badges of honour for my sister as they demonstrate that she belongs to a community and they make her feel – very officially – valued. Do check out the Ferring project’s gallery to see more pictures of what this excellent centre does and to the team there – thank you, you’ve made our summer.
However, as grateful as I am for my sister’s progress, I never take it for granted. While she is currently so well-supported, others are in unhappier situations and the funding future is less than rosy for disability services. As campaigning organisations like the Learning Disability Coalition (LDC) and Voluntary Organisations Disability Group (VODG – note of transparency here as I also manage the group’s blog) have made clear, government cuts are a massive threat to disabled people while current funding rules are in desperate need of an overhaul.
Next week, 13 September, the Welfare Reform Bill has its second reading in the House of Lords and there is a very real fear that people with disabilities will lose out in the changes. Disability Living Allowance (DLA), for example, is used by the disabled for daily living costs but the government plans to replace it with Personal Independence Payment (PIP), which will save it money. But a recent survey of 2,200 people by charity the Papworth Trust, shows that the changes under PIP would mean 86% of disabled people would be forced to cut back on food or transport. There is a growing fear – and now growing evidence to suggest – that cuts are unfairly falling on the disabled.
For how long will young disabled adults be able to access the same activities and support as my sister in such a climate?
This week, Raana is back in Hampshire, getting stuck back into living, learning, socialising and working. Her work in the Lantern Community’s amazing shop, for example, now includes more responsibility for stock pricing, something of which she is very proud. Raana has so far not only achieved more any of us can have hoped for, but there’s a very real sense that there’s much more to come.
And I think for my parents, who know they shouldn’t but can’t help but compare Raana’s development with that of her two older siblings, it’s worth noting that I’ve certainly never been in a carnival parade and now I’m not the only one in my family to make the front page (note the tiny pink and white wand-holding figure in the centre of the throng). The only difference is that while I can write the news, I’ve never actually made it.
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Well done on her part! Your right to be proud of her, good to hear someone break out of a prison of anxiety.
Thank you Ian for your comment, not only is the family immensely proud of my sister, but she herself is aware of her achievements and takes pride in them. This is due in no small part to the care settings and support she’s been fortunate enough to experience. Saba
Your article was on the Broken of Britain site on Facebook. I just wanted to say thankyou for writing such an inspiring piece about your sister ,who is beautiful by the way. It is so good to read something so positive in these times where all we hear from the media is horrible things. But that isn’t real stuff. The true reality is that there is far more good done in the world than bad and your sister is proof of that. I hope that the DLA cuts etc don’t affect you too much if at all. My husband who has a terminal cancer and has just come out of remission after 7 years is now worried about the effects of DLA and the Atos test will have on him, when he shouldn’t have to worry about it at all but be able to concentrate on himself.
I wish you and your family and especially your lovely, clever, bright sister all good wishes for the future.
Diana thanks not only for spotting the piece on the very good Broken of Britain site, but for taking the trouble to click through here to comment. People like your husband shouldn’t be made even more anxious as a result of the cuts but you’re right, scores of people are facing an uncertain future when it comes to their daily living needs. I will pass on your very good wishes to my sister (I can just picture her beaming face when I tell her!). Saba.
Beautifully written Saba. I too feel an immense exhilaration at seeing Raana’s remarkable progress, thanks not only to “The Mount” where she got the best attention and care in the world, but also to your parents’, yours’ and your sister’s immense love and affection……. not to mention Raana’s own personality. She is an absolutely wonderful and an adorable person. May all her peers show similar progress.
..and I can’t wait for her to read your comments! What a lovely – and might I add accurate – description of Raana! Saba
Compelling read. “There is a growing fear – and now growing evidence to suggest – that cuts are unfairly falling on the disabled.” Maria Miller and her Government needs to pull out all the stops to ensure the new assessments are fair and transparent.
David thanks for your words, Papworth Trust’s very good research and analysis on the issue is part of that growing evidence that, as you underline in your comment, should force the government’s hand on the issue. Only on a parallel universe could anyone be oblivious to the strength of feeling – from individual campaigners, commentators, charities, the very vocal blogging community and all the anti-cuts campaigners who’ve demonstrated in recent years. Thanks for reading, Saba.
Saba what a moving piece. Well done! This is such remarkable news. How very exciting not only for Raana, but your parents, your sister and of course, you yourself. This is indeed quite a milestone for her to be up on a float with all the noise in unfamiliar surroundings. I must say that seeing all these outstanding changes in Raana is proof enough that “The Mount” has a very effective and positive program.
After this I feel strongly that Raana must now feel that the best is yet to come. What an inspiration she is for the rest of her friends.
Thank you for sharing Raana’s inspiring experience with all of us.
Thank you for reading and for the comment – exciting, remarkable, inspiring – we love all these words being used to describe the rather amazing Miss Salman!
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